Support from the heart...

The heart is an interesting creature, and I do mean creature!  I say this because even when we don't want to fall and don't want to feel, sometimes our heart just doesn't listen.  Then comes the lovely internal battle of denying how we feel and even trying to convince ourselves that maybe there is something wrong with us...

But the truth is there is nothing wrong with you and there is nothing wrong with your heart.  Falling for someone just means you are open and maybe you are ready for a deeper more meaningful connection with another open hearted person.  And maybe just maybe you are falling for the ones who are not ready for you because you fear what having someone love you will look like. 

How it will feel and what it might mean. 

Loving someone means making room for them in your life. 

It means being open to that persons fears, feelings, decisions, hopes and dreams and supporting them through all of those pieces.  It also means being supported in return. 

For some of us having support from someone we love can be scary.  Occasionally it comes from being so comfortable doing it on our own that we don't want to be reliant on someone else and what happens if we trust they will be there and then they aren't...

Well in most scenarios it hurts but sometimes it's because they just don't know how to be there for you, the strong one who never leans on anyone else. It can be a daunting prospect to be there for anyone while they navigate their own challenges that arise from their personal inner world.

It takes patience, and communication and a whole lota acceptance/forgiveness and love.  The important thing to remember is that we are all learning this skill, this trait so we can move through our personal world with amazing and supportive relationships of all kinds. 

Be gentle with those you love because they are doing the best they can, and if you know of a way they can support you that will help you more, then tell them.  Don't drop subtle hints and hope they will get it.  Have an actual conversation and if they get upset, remember that they are human just like you and may be struggling as well.  Have compassion, have patience and most of all hold forgiveness for them if they happen to not meet your expectations.  All we can do is keep learning and the best way to learn is to communicate and accept each other and ourselves one day at a time.

 

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